If you want to feel better about yourself, the first thing you need to do is stop being your own worst enemy. Stop getting down on yourself when things don't go the way you would like. Feeling better about yourself takes work, but you can do it if you're serious about it.
- Learn to say positive things to yourself.
- Build yourself up instead of putting yourself down. Don't let that little voice inside your head tell you that you can't do something, or that you are going to mess something up. If you let that voice continue, you'll eventually believe what it says.
- Say positive things to yourself. Tell yourself that you are a good person, that you will keep trying, or that you will do your best.
- Set yourself up for success.
- Set some small realistic goals that you can accomplish. For example, maybe you have avoided someone because you were afraid of saying something dumb. Your first goal might be just to smile and say, "hi." Then do it.
After you accomplish one goal, add another.
- Learn to be assertive.
- Practice taking charge of situations. Find your strength so you can display confidence and help others.
- Take responsibility for your behavior.
- Apologize, if necessary. If you make a mistake, correct it. When things don't go as you would like, it's easy to say it was someone else's fault. People are less likely to be mad at you if you own up to the mistake.
- Respect yourself.
- Stick with what you know is right. Don't let others talk you into doing something for the sake of popularity or status.
- Learn to solve your own problems.
- Realize that when you make good decisions, you gain more control over what happens to you.
- Help others.
- Be kind to others. Whenever you help someone else, you also help yourself feel better. The way you treat others will influence the way others treat you in return.
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